T100 children's clothing parent-child education: Huang Lei wrote a lot to it: hope you meet someone who knows you

T100 children's clothing parent-child education: Huang Lei wrote a lot to it: hope you meet someone who knows you

"Writing to the Future," the results have not dragged on. When I wrote it again today, I already had a younger daughter, so "you" became "you".

Teddy and sister, this essay is for you, at the age of eight and two months respectively. What I want to write to you is to take the river of time and bring you some of the parents today's love and sentiment today, and never write again, for fear that you will soon forget.

Just talk about it today. Today is March 16, 2014. It is a lot more than eight years old and my sister is still less than a hundred days old. Our family lives in a villa on the outskirts of Beijing, a long way from the city, not far from the mountains. Because we are far away from embarrassment, we are accustomed to such semi-reclusive lifestyles. We don't go out of our way, do not enter the city, do not make any unnecessary appointments, and most importantly, we do not have too much influence on the reality. about. Only in this way will I and your mother have more time and energy to guard you and each other.

I must say pessimistically but calmly and honestly. We only have this life. So these most ordinary emotions are the most precious happiness for us. I hope that you can live in the future too: guard your loved ones and children with your heart, and each other.

The life in the suburbs is natural, organic and simple. I believe you have the impression of a long convention: Dad cooking in the kitchen to cook, her mother in the laundry, the family together to make bread and cookies. But this scene is very much like shooting a warm family drama, it is easy to make people feel false, and leads to guessing and criticism. No matter what kind of choice is accompanied by too much extra meaning today. Therefore, it is important to learn not to buy genuine products for gifts.

Perhaps happiness is to choose a way you like to live. If you grow up, is there still someone holding a microphone and asking you to be happy? You can either not answer it or answer it like this. But hopefully, there will no longer be such problems and people who raise such problems.

Back to today, a very ordinary day. In the afternoon, my sister was asleep. She was still in a state of sleep twenty hours a day. She was practicing piano or reluctantly practicing the piano. Learning to play the same instrument, or learning some of the artistic aspects of sports skills, I always do not support or oppose. In fact, I didn't have training in this area. My childhood was mainly spent on the roofs of trees and all kinds of streets. Although I admire people who play well or who can play the piano, I don't regret my clumsyness. No rhythm. I don't know if my sister would like to sing, dance, skating, play, or play tennis. Anyhow, you seem to be not practicing piano at the moment. Painting is very much like it. As for other skills, we will not ask you to master it just like Tiger Mama's father. I believe that what you need most will not be playing the piano, even if you can play as exciting as a pianist.

What needs to happen? What are your expectations? I am not very clear. When I think that you have grown up and will be independent and far away, I will not be willing. Often selfishly thinking that you don’t grow up, we don’t age. How can it be? You are doomed to grow up. No matter whether you practice practicing piano or not going to school, you will not be able to reverse it, and you will always grow old. Just like us. Since time is unreliable and irreversible, what we learn is not so important. Please forgive me for my boring and pessimistic attitude, although it is an honest one. To learn to be honest, if you have to let me choose what to learn for you, be honest. The honesty I said may not only be for you to tell the truth, not to lie. Frankly speaking, there are more or less falsehoods in each person's growth. The lies are some kind of good intentions, some are forced to helplessness, and there are more from our inherent weaknesses and stupidity. Lies will exist forever. Both news and rumors, promises and affidavits. You will be doomed to hear too many lies in your life, and you will also be able to blurt out your words. But I still hope that you will be honest and honest to you, be loyal to the simplicity and ease of your heart, and not consider the suspicions and dissatisfaction that you have had around you, and accept and digest your life honestly. This honesty is not only a kind of morality, but also a brave character. What else should I learn? There may be many options. I have passed through my heart once and for all. Most of my meetings are not special. It is not my natural talent to know a little about art, but this is already a means of my livelihood. However, the others are all sculpins that will not be worth mentioning. So, if you grow up, you won't have nothing to do with it, it doesn't really matter, Who cares! Believe in Dad, you don't have to be sad even if you don't get anything done. There aren’t many people who don’t have worldly recognition, and you don’t have to be a minority. .

March 16 is also a special day for me. Today is the date of my best friend's death. He is Chen Zhiyuan and met him several times when he was a little boy. Chen Bobo went to heaven today three years ago. I have known Chen Bobo for more than ten years. We have forged a profound friendship in many times of work cooperation. I have always valued this friendship. He is 20 years old when he is older. We are forgetting the year. Chen Bobo is a musician who has written many popular songs, such as "I miss you every day," "Thanksgiving heart", "Love someone who doesn't come home," these are the songs I listened to when I was young. We are a lifelong friendship. When we meet, we continue to talk about topics. We are busy on weekdays and we are only concerned about each other. After his death, his widow, Aunt Mimi, gave me my nearsighted myopia mirror, and I still put it in my desk drawer. We will meet many people throughout our lives, including classmates, colleagues, old friends, and new knowledge. Some people will pass by you and eventually become passers-by or memories in photos, even if they have been working closely together. There may be many reasons why they did not become lifelong friends with us, but the root cause is that they have different perceptions of their own values ​​and the world. Therefore, you don't have to worry about what you used to be, if you don't have the fault of a good friend. Too many have encountered this problem now. Although it seems to be a game between children and you are not good with her, you still have to learn to bear the worries of the unruly teenagers. I tried to enlighten me but I was powerless. After all, you were so. I am eager to be liked and accepted by more people. But I believe that there are always people in the world who think in the same way as you and find such friends. No matter where you are, you will not fear or panic.

And what love do I most want to discuss with you, how can I discuss love with my daughters? As a father, thinking about this issue is a matter of distribution. I certainly hope that you will meet the best love, love your lover, and men who know you best. This desire is a challenge to me and a father. I love you as much as I love life, but of course I can't bear to see the burden and guilt of your love. However, this "but" is the one I don't like to say the most. However, I know that wish is just a wish. This is one of the things I can do nothing about. I cannot be a guide on your path of love, nor can I lift the inevitable distress for you. But again, however, I can tell you afterwards that this is the taste of life and it is okay to try it.

The beginning of love is always sweet, but then there may be all sorts of flavors, or bitter or astringent, but the initial sweetness is still fascinating. Dad's first love was eighteen years old, but the target was not your mother. At that time your mother was still a child. My first love fell into a trap of sorrow, melancholy, sweetness, and impulsiveness. I could barely see any people and things around me, but I was only interested in my first love. Later, your grandmother and my mother put a letter on my bedside. The letter was very polite and very careful. The specific content is that I know you are in love, my mother is happy, but don’t forget to study... I think, When you first love, I will also try to pass my heart to you. Or, it's better now: You are in love, I'm happy, and it's okay to delay learning. It's just that everything is in no hurry. The sweetness of love should be tasted.

My true and precious love is the love of your loved ones and your loved ones. The crystallization of love is you. My love with her is until this year (2014) is already the 19th year. I hope there will be 90 years. We met on campus. Dad was 24 years old and her mother was 18 years old. We fell in love at first sight. In the years that followed, we have always been obedient and committed to our love beliefs. In this nineteen-year period of love and ten years of marriage, we had doubts, pain, struggles, and even give up, but looking back at those are just episodes, love each other is doomed to digest these. Today, two daughters and a wife are my greatest achievements. I have never loved your mother like you do today and will love you more deeply in the future. The reason is simple, my dear daughters, because she is my unique wife and your most beautiful mother. Love does not require special study or honing, as long as you believe in love and are willing to give and hold. The rest, we must appreciate yourself.

There are many other words that you would like to write to the future about reading, money, desires, and the childhood of you and your mom and dad. Next time, I will slowly write to you again.

love you forever.

Dad Huang Lei

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